“I don’t think human beings learn anything without desperation. Desperation is a necessary ingredient to learning anything or creating anything. Period. If you ain’t desperate at some point, you ain’t interesting.” – Jim Carrey
“There’s a dark side to each and every human soul. We wish we were Obi-Wan Kenobi, and for the most part we are, but there’s a little Darth Vader in all of us. Thing is, this ain’t no either or proposition. We’re talking about dialectics, the good and the bad merging into us. You can run but you can’t hide. My experience? Face the darkness, stare it down. Own it. As brother Nietzsche said, being human is a complicated gig. Give that old dark night of the soul a hug! Howl the eternal yes!” -Stuart Stevens
“Instead of resisting any emotion, the best way to dispel it is to enter it fully, embrace it and see through your resistance.”- Deepak Chopra
“Thank you for life, and all the little ups and downs that make it worth living.” -Travis Barker
We all have bad days. Sometimes, we just can’t win. They seem to come out of nowhere and linger for awhile. And for no obvious reason at all. I have had a few days recently where they started rough and didn’t really improve. For some reason, I slept restlessy through several nightmares. I woke up tired and anxious. I felt unmotivated and was not very productive on those days. I felt guilty for doing only the minimum on those days. It’s probably the worst I have ever felt.
I am sharing this because it’s important to know- emotions have power. They can either control you or you control them. Our inward reality creates how we view the outside world. Many people allow negative events and experience shape their emotions. They allow the world to make them angry and uninspired. They have a negative view of the world because it’s not fair in their eyes. Oppositely, people who create a positive viewpoint of the world around them tend to be more happy, healthy, and productive. They see all of the wonders and miracles this world has to offer and choose to focus on those.
It is imperative to learn how to control your emotions. The first step would be to identify how you feel and react to certain events in your life. Do you react in a negative or positive way? What thoughts do you think? How do you feel physically during those periods? Next, acknowledge that all emotions are temporary. The are fleeting reactions to present moments or events. Once we acknowledge these triggers and reactions, it is important to identify the ones you would like to change. Once you become aware of negative emotions, decide to do all you can to transfer that energy into something productive. Use those raw emotions as constructive instead of destructive Here are some tactics to let go of negative emotions and harness positive ones:
-Allow yourself to fully feel the emotion in a safe setting. Cry your eyes out, yell your voice hoarse, punch until your knuckles bleed
-Share your emotions and feelings with a trusted loved one
-Go work out
–Take up meditation or deep breathing
-Sing in private or public
-Punching an object- a pillow, punching bag, or mattress
-Yell to your hearts content!
It is critical to identify how we react emotionally to life events and change our negative reactions. Anger, jealousy, anxiety, hate, and others are toxic to the body and soul. These emotions can be changed to happiness, joy, peace, or gratitude. It just takes the right mindset. Above all, Eat, Move, and Improve!
“Learn how to cook- Try new recipes. Learn from your mistakes. Be fearless. And, above all, have fun!” -Julia Childs
It’s a common misconception. When people hear of diet, they think “I am going to be so deprived.” Or, “eating healthy is boring.” Bet yet, “this is going to suck!” I have noticed how many people decide not to take action because of their preconceived notions. They look at a decision or commitment they want to make. If they even suspect any negative connotation to a decision, they run the opposite way or rationalize why its not worth it.
However, the truth is that there are pros and cons to every decision out there. For example, unexplainable taste and joy of eating french fries and cheeseburgers is a pro. But, weight gain, bloating, and drowsiness could be considered cons.
- Experiment with bright colors- orange, red, green, blue, purple, yellow etc.We eat with our eyes and bright colors make people excited!
- Switch things up. For example, switch between, chicken, shrimp, fish, and other lean meats
- Mix 2-3 food groups into 1 dish. Instead of having 3 separate food groups on a plate, mix them up in a salad, pasta dish, soup, or rice bowl for example!
- Try different herbs and spices. Each herb and spice contribute different nutritional benefits.
- Mix up your cooking techniques. Grilling, baking, broiling, barbecuing, and others change the taste and experience of the meal
- Change your eating environment. We tend to get bored by sitting in the same spot- eat at your table, outside, or at a friend’s house!
- Cook with a friend! Sharing an experience with a loved one will make it more pleasurable.
- Try ethnic dishes or flavors you haven’t tried before: sushi, curries, Mediterranean, Asian.
- Flavor your water differently. Infuse it with citrus fruits, mint, or even ginger!
- Listen to your favorite music! We tend to be happier and more willing to try something new when we’re jamming to our favorite toons.
Twas the night before the outing, when all through the course, Not a creature was stirring, not even a mouse.
The golf carts were parked by the clubhouse with care, in hopes that clear weather soon would be there.
The golfers were nestled all snug in their beds, while visions of skins and birdies play in their heads.
And mamma in her ‘kerchief, and I in my cap, had just settled our brains for a long Summer’s nap.
When out on the lawn there arose such a clatter, I sprang from the bed to see what was the matter.
Away to the window I flew like a flash, Tore open the shutters and threw up the sash.
The moon on the breast of the new-fallen dew Gave the lustre of mid-day to objects below.
When, what to my wondering eyes should appear, But a mysterious man came near
With a little old driver, so lively and quick, I knew in a moment it must be my golf partner.
More rapid than eagles his coursers they came, And he whistled, and shouted, and called them by name!” Now Nike! now, Calloway! now, Taylormade and Ping! On, Titelist! On, Slazenger! on, Cleveland and Maxfli!
To the top of the porch! to the top of the wall! Now dash away! Dash away! Dash away all!”
As dry leaves that before the wild hurricane fly, When they meet with an obstacle, mount to the sky.
So up to the fairway- top the coursers they flew, With the sleigh full of Toys, and My golf partner too.
And then, in a twinkling, I heard on the green. The prancing and pawing of each little swing.
As I drew in my head, and was turning around, Down the fairway my partner came with a bound.
He was dressed all in golf attire, from his head to his foot, And his clothes were all tarnished with dirt and soot.
A bundle of Toys he had flung on his back, And he looked like a peddler, just opening his pack.
His eyes-how they twinkled! his dimples how merry! His cheeks were like roses, his nose like a cherry!
His droll little mouth was drawn up like a bow, And the beard of his chin was as white as the snow.
The stump of a pipe he held tight in his teeth, And the smoke it encircled his head like a wreath.
He had a broad face and a little round belly, That shook when he laughed, like a bowlful of jelly!
He was chubby and plump, a right jolly old elf, And I laughed when I saw him, in spite of myself!
A wink of his eye and a twist of his head, Soon gave me to know I had nothing to dread.
He spoke not a word, but went straight to his work, And tees up his drive, then turned with a jerk.
And laying his finger aside of his nose, And giving a nod, up the cart path he rose!
He sprang to his cart, to his team gave a whistle, And away they all flew like the down of a thistle.
But I heard him exclaim, ‘ere he drove out of sight, “Happy outing to all, and to all a good-night!”
Hey readers! Sorry for my prolonged hiatus. I had started a new job a few months ago. I needed some extra time to get up to speed and used to working full time again.
I am happy to announce that I am planning on returning to posting again VERY SOON. You will begin seeing consistent and new posts on my blog in the next few days. Stay tuned!
In the mean time, I had a new idea for a string of posts. You may or may not be aware, but we all have attachments to food. We have feelings, thoughts, and relationships with food. I had an idea to write “letters” addressed to foods as if they are people. Would you like to read them? Comment below!