Ignore the Haters

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So I never listen that, “You can’t.” I always listen to myself and say, “Yes, you can.” -Arnold Schwarzeneggar

“Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option”  -Maya Angelou

“But, I say to you, Love your enemies, bless those cursing you, do good to those hating you, and pray for those accusing you falsely, and persecuting you” -Matthew 5:44

I have been rejected.  Alot.  I have experienced rejection over and over in my lifetime in many different social circles.  I have been rejected by high school peers, jobs, customers, and girls I have tried to date.  I tried so hard to gain their respect and acceptance, only to experience deeper disappointment.  I used to think that these rejections were because of me! Maybe if I was a little more athletic, better looking, funnier, or suave, people would like me more. I tried so many different approaches and thought one would finally click without any success.  I figured that if I kept trying, they would notice my efforts and finally give me a shot.   It upset me to the core that people would not let me be a part of their lives, especially since I was trying so hard.

You will have people who doubt or criticize you no matter what you do.  They may treat you negatively for a number of reasons.  They may be jealous, close minded, or just flat out jerks.  The bottom line is that they treat you negatively! You can call these people “haters”, “naysayers”, or even “doubters”.  They expel negative energy through their words, actions, and behaviors. They put others down to look better and for their own twisted sense of enjoyment.  If you sense someone is not invested in your life goals, ambitions, or journey, it is totally OKAY to cut them off from you entirely!  The hardest part is realizing your friends, family, and colleagues could be dragging you down.  Life is too short to allow negative people to effect any part of your life.

However, I have learned the truth that YOU will not click with everyone you come into contact with.  Everyone has different standards, experiences, and perspectives. They pull from these thoughts they have to decide if they want to bring another person into their lives.  In this day and age, we all have the idea that other people choose the circles we find ourselves in.  We are placed in classes, groups, and friendships that seem out of our control. We just accept that belief and do our best to exist with the people placed in our vicinity.  Truthfully, we have a choice with whom we involve in our lives. It is critical to befriend people who value you for who you are! The heights we fall or rise depend wholly on the people we rely on and spend the most time with.  Would it make sense to choose a friend who never calls you or invites you to special events?  Of course not!  Then, why look for approval or admiration from others who won’t give you a second glance?  You’re worth more than getting treated like that.

The more funny and ironic part is that I found myself in sales where rejection happens constantly. I still get nos!   Maybe these rejections help me build up a thick skin.  Or, it made me realize which people are worth fighting for.  You see, the people who matter the most will make an effort to always raise you up in the good and bad times.  They will make an effort to develop the mutual relationships between you just as much as you do.  These are the people you want in your corner.  They will support your change goals, whether it’s losing 20 pounds, quitting drinking, putting out a book, or starting your own business.   And, they will be honest with you.  Therefore, it is IMPERATIVE to choose those friends and family who BELIEVE in you and aid you in your goals. Never lose who you are as a person for a wolf dressed in sheep’s clothing.  Leave the haters where they belong, behind.   As Always, Eat, Move, and Improve!

 

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Life is Short. Just Laugh!

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“Life is tough, but so are you!”- Kid President
 
“Always laugh when you can. It is cheap medicine”. — Lord Byron
 
     Sometimes, I take life too seriously.  There are times and moments where I have a disappointment or things do not go my way.  In the moment, I let the disappointment get to me.  I consider it a crisis and do not think I can solve the problem or get through it. I let problems stress me out and make me upset.
 
     However, I learned in time to find the proper  perspective.  Each and every problem can be considered on a spectrum from “minor nuisance” to “major catastrophe”.  It is important to look at a difficulty in the correct lens and act accordingly.  Most difficulties are not earth shattering or life ruining.  Also, I realize that I am not alone in this experience.  Everyone is battling in this difficult journey we call life.  It’s important to remember that most everyone is sharing in the struggle.  Ask yourself, “in the grand scheme of things, does this problem really worth me getting upset over?”
 
    Through these experiences, I have found that laughter heals all.  There is magic in the human laugh.  It is truly the best medicine.  Do you know why? Laughter brings our minds into the present moment.  Most negative thoughts come from thinking about ANYTHING BUT THE PRESENT.  Most of the time, feelings of regret come from past memories and thoughts.  Feelings of anxiety come from worrying about the future.  Laughter not only keeps us in the present moment, but it allows us to think more clearly to problem solve and communicate much more effectively.
 
     You may ask, “how can I force myself to laugh?  Something needs to be funny for me to laugh”!  Answer:  anything that works for you!  For example, I keep a running youtube list of short videos that crack me up.  Funny pictures, movies, comics, songs, or even chatting with someone who has a great sense of humor can help.  Ultimately, developing the ability to laugh during difficult times and when facing challenges allow you to handle them much more effectively; including diet, exercise and weight loss.  As always, eat, move and improve!

Trends END

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“There’s a rebel lying deep in my soul. Anytime anybody tells me the trend is such and such, I go the opposite direction. I hate the idea of trends. I hate imitation; I have a reverence for individuality.” -Clint Eastwood
 
trend simply reflects what seems to be going around at any given time. A trend can be in any area and doesn’t only reflect fashion, pop culture and entertainment. There can also be a trend in the stock market to be bullish or bearish, depending on economic indicators, or a political trend reflecting a nation’s current mood. Some trends are fun, some fabulous, some appalling, but however long they last, you can be sure there will always be a new trend coming along to replace the old. (Vocabulary.com)
 
Ever notice how many of the most popular trends seem to come and go as time goes by?  Think back.  Remember when the Walkman, mullet, and rollerblades were all the rage?  Even language goes through changes: we used to call things “hip”, “groovy”,or  “fresh”.  What was cool then seems totally silly now to many.  New trends come to take their place.  Now, selfies, social media, smartphones, and binge watching are popular uses of our time and energy.
 
Diets are the same way.  A new trend comes along and everyone gets on the band wagon.  These new diet trends have attractive names and to some degree, solid reasoning.  Some of these food trends include non GMO, paleo, gluten free (except when you have celiac dsease), and even cleanses.  But, do you know what?  Most of these trends don’t work!  For each of these diet plans, someone had the idea, branded it, and shared it with the world.  Their catchy name and concept catches on fire and burns like a wildfire throughout the country.  However, most of them are not based on solid science or research.  The truth is, there is no silver bullet.  A diet that promises massive losses in even less time will not amount to the long term healthy and strong body we all want deep down.
 
Instead, focus on eating mindfully.  Choose foods from the healthy food groups: whole grains, low fat dairy, lean proteins, and fresh produce.  Serve small portions and eat slowly so that your body recognizes its satiety signals.  Limit sweets and choose healthy drinks. Sound difficult, you say?  How is eating like a cave man any different??
 
As Always, Eat, Move, Improve!

Ignore the White Noise

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“You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.”- Winston Churchill
 
White Noise: meaningless or distracting commotion, hubbub, or chatter (Webster’s Dictionary).  On any journey to making a change, it is inevitable you will face distractions.  I Like to call it “white noise.” These distractions make an effort to bother us and derail us from the main objective or goal.  Most of the time, distractions appear as innocent annoyances.  However, they can have a cumulative effect if you succumb to them often enough.
 
Take television for an example.  Almost everyone has found a show they enjoy to watch.  They get excited when it comes on and stop their lives to envelope themselves in a story through the screen.  However, streaming companies and cable providers have made television shows more accessible and on demand.  More than ever, it is so easy to get distracted in our lives and binge watch several hours of these shows!
 
When it comes to diet and exercise, many distractions can delay or divert us from our success.  One distraction I always think of are the food choices at holidays and parties. How often do you attend family or friend get togethers where there is food served?  If I was a betting man, I would say every couple weeks!  Most of the time, the food served here aren’t very healthy choices!  And, there is always more available than anyone could eat in one sitting.
 
As for exercise, there are so many distractions that hinder people from having an effective workout.  I have experienced it myself!  The distractions can be different depending on where people work out.  In the gym, it is easy to become distracted by people watching (my personal favorite), chatting with others, or wasting time on our cell phones.  If you exercise at home, the TV, computer, or chores can be distractions from carrying out an effective workout.
 
In order to change your life, it is important to ignore these distractions. Take some time to reflect where you get distracted from achieving your goals.  It is critical to discover what pushes you away from making the best decisions to achieve your goals. COMMIT to staying focused and don’t allow the distractions get to you.  I know what you’re thinking, “easier said than done, Anthony!”  The truth is, I believe in you and it is possible to ignore distractions!  Above all, Eat, Move, Improve!

Use it TO Lose It

The other day, I was thinking about the saying “Use it Or Lose it”. Millions of people in the U.S. are attempting to lose weight.  So, I propose this new saying: “Use it TO Lose It”.  Contrary to popular belief, weight loss comes out of losing FAT.  Therefore, it is essential to build habits and train your body to burn body fat.  Fat is necessary in our bodies for structure & other functions.  Our bodies store extra fat that we eat and do not use.  So, we need to train our bodies to use the stored fat as energy.  How does one do that? Healthy eating and exercise!  Here are some tips to begin burning that fat!

 

  • Drink plenty of water
  • Eat healthy fats- nuts, seeds, & oils
  • Eat more fibrous foods- fruits, vegetables, & whole grains
  • Limit foods high in sugars & saturated fats
  • Eat more protein- lean meats, dairy, and eggs

Also, exercise!  Certain exercises utilize fat more than others:

  • High intensity interval training
  • Weight lifting
  • Alternating between sprints & jogging.

These exercises can be tough just staring out, so do what you can.  it’s better than doing nothing at all!