A Valentines Day I won’t Forget

As Valentine’s Day 2018 approaches, I have been reflecting on my previous Valentine’s Day.  Considering I haven’t had a real Valentine around this time, this isn’t really my favorite holiday.  It always reminds me of the rejections and relationships that didn’t really pan out.

Last year was worse.  At the time, I was jobless and living at home.  I was job searching without much luck in finding the right position. I had taken a part time position at a bar and grill to stay busy.  My first workday was supposed to be Valentine’s Day.  To make matters worse, I got sick on my first day of work (eww).  I had to call in sick two days in a row!  Talk about making a terrible first impression!  Sufficed to say, I would happily forget that Valentine’s Day.

Fast forward to this year, my life is looking ALOT better.  I am working in a job where I am celebrated and respected by my peers and customers.  I have made progress in my hobbies and life goals.  I am beginning to create my happiness and separate myself from negativity.  I FINALLY moved out of my parents house.  And, I won an award at work recently.  LIFE IS GOOD.

Why do I share this?  Does it sound like a sob story to you?  I am sharing because IT GETS BETTER.  You may feel like your life is in shambles right now.  You may feel down on your luck.  You may want to quit.  But, life has an interesting way of CHANGING YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES.  It is key to believe that life offers infinite blessings and opportunities.  You have to believe that things will get better and take steps to MAKE IT HAPPEN.

Share your “Comeback” stories below.  I would love to hear about them!  As Always, Eat, Move, and Improve!


“P”ower Words

“When your values are clear to you, making decisions becomes easier.” -Roy E. Disney

“I have learned that as long as I hold fast to my beliefs and values – and follow my own moral compass – then the only expectations I need to live up to are my own.” -Michelle Obama

“Words can build you up
Words can break you down
Start a fire in your heart or
Put it out”
“Words” by Hawk Nelson

“But if thought corrupts language, language can also corrupt thought.”-George Orwell, 1984

I have been thinking about values and words lately.  Most people underestimate their power.  They speak words without a second thought.  We act outside of our values.  No wonder people are miserable and not where they want to be.

Values and words are unusual things.  They are constant, but ever changing.  Values are those foundations we have built within us.  They drive our beliefs and behaviors.  However, they can be shaped, formed, changed, and even ignored.  Words and language are very similar.  Words are constant, but can change when combined with other words.  The words we choose can drive our beliefs and behaviors.  They also can be shaped, formed, changed, or ignored.

At the same time, the meanings of values and words remain the same.  They appear in our lives constantly in different times, situations, and quantities.  I encourage you to value certain words in your thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors.  These “P” Phrases will help you make better decisions and in effect a better outcome in your life.

People: We tend to underestimate how much we need good people and relationships in our lives..  Surround yourself and focus your time and effort on good people.
Persistence:  Nothing amazing was ever accomplished on the first try.  Consistent effort on something will improve your skill set and allow you to do the amazing.
Positivity:  Not many people like negativity.  Positive thinking has the power to improve situations, conversation, your day, and even your outlook on life  Cultivate your positive attitude daily.
Peace: We lead busy, non stop lives.  It an become exhausting. We don’t get many breaks and it never seems to stop.  Strive to find peace in your day and yourself and your life will have much more meaning.
Patience: Great things take time.  We live in a culture that promises instant gratification.  Choose to be patient in the moment while waiting for what you want.
Priorities: We have thousands of things pulling us all the time- work, family, extracurriculars, chores, errands.  Don’t even think about doing everything that falls into your lap.  Focus on the activities that bring the most joy and results.  You will be more focused and attentive to those fewer activities.

Remember, words and values have meanings.  Choose to live by strong values and speak positive, constructive words.  Watch as your interactions and life improve.  As Always, Eat, Move, and Improve! 

Celebrate You

“This is real
This is me
I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be now
Gonna let the light shine on me
Now I’ve found who I am
There’s no way to hold it in
No more hiding who I wanna be
This is me”
-“This is Me” by Demi Lovato
“I am brave, I am bruised
I am who I’m meant to be, this is me
Look out ’cause here I come
And I’m marching on to the beat I drum
I’m not scared to be seen
I make no apologies, this is me”
-“This is Me” by Keala Settle
“Be yourself because an original is worth than a copy” -Unknown
“My life will not be an apology. It will be a statement.” -The Traveler’s Gift by Andy Andrews

Society today pressures us in so many ways.  It wants us to conform.  It wants us to stay the same.  It wants us to be a part of a group.  What’s worse, it makes us feel bad if we stand out.
For any of you who are “different”, you know what I mean.  You may be different in one way or another.  Society makes you feel bad about that.  We’re not supposed to celebrate what makes us different, right?  Society would say so.
I recently saw the movie The Greatest Showman with Hugh Jackman.  It is loosely based on the origins of the world famous “Barnum and Bailey Circus.”  The movie uniquely showcases how being special can have such an impact in society.  In fact, the character PT Barnum says at one point “No one ever made a difference by being like everyone else.”  The story is quite heartwarming as he and his circus make an impact on society’s preconception on “special” or “different”.
I urge you.  Wherever you are in your journey.  Whatever you think.  Consider yourself uniquely amazing.  You are one of a kind.  Love yourself for all you are, good and bad. Celebrate what makes you different and don’t hide it.   You will feel so much better about yourself in your current position in your journey.  As Always, Eat, Move, and Improve!

Dear Pork

Dear Pork.

Why do they call you the “other white meat?” I mean, I understand how chicken is the main white meat. It’s the most popular after all. But, you’re not the only “White meat” out there. Turkey and fish can be white after all. Why the prejudice towards you?

Pork, it’s not fair. You don’t deserve that kind of name. You’re not an outsider. It’s almost racy.  After all, you can be a great option for most people. Like chicken, you are high in protein and are versatile meat. You can come baked, roasted, barbecued, and even grilled. You can be flavored with spices, dressings, and sauces. Take it from me. You’re great the way you are. Never change. Be loud and proud that you’re a great option!

Sincerely, you need a better nickname

Make Peace

“Ego says, “Once everything falls into place, I’ll feel peace.”   Spirit says, “Find your peace, and then everything will fall into place.” -Marianne Williamson
“Peace begins with a smile..” -Mother Teresa
“When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace.” -Jimi Hendrix

Peace.  We all search for it.  We all want everything to be ok.  We all want our problems to go away.  We want that feeling of total bliss and lack of worry.  We think peace as an outcome.  “Once I lose the weight, I will find peace”.  “Once I achieve my gals, I will feel better about myself.  Peace has always been this enigma everyone wants, but only the select few can attain.

I struggle with finding peace a lot!  Throughout my childhood, I developed a sense of low self esteem and mild anxiety.  These feelings of inadequacy and worry put me in defensive mode most of the time. It hurt my confidence and trust in people.  The good news is that I am aware of these gaps now.  I strive each day to find peaceful moments in my day and work to build back up my confidence and trust in people.   I have learned so much about mindset, feelings, and peace lately.  Truthfully, peace is a choice that we can make TODAY.  Peace allows our minds to be at ease even in the hardest circumstances.  It allows us to treat people better and have a positive outlook.  Here are some ways to develop a more peaceful way of life:

-forgive others and yourself
-let go of negative thoughts and habits
-look for joy in your daily tasks or around you
-listen to peaceful music
-come to terms wth the past
Give these strategies a shot and see how they make you feel.  You may find a new favorite practice that keeps you cool all day long!  Which ways do you find peace?  Let me know below!  As Always, Eat, Move, and Improve!

New Year, Better Me

“See every day as an opportunity to better yourself” -Unknown
“Know yourself to Improve Yourself” -August Comte
“Write it on your Heart that every day is the best day of the year” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

Happy New Year!  I’m like you.  I cannot believe that this year has swiftly come along.  The past year is here and gone.  It’s bittersweet.  Leaving the old and coming into the new.  It’s an opportunity to make changes and leave the rough times behind.  It’s a very exciting time!

I keep seeing so many posts stating “New Year, New Me”.  The thought is to create a new self and leave your old self in the past.  While that saying really does sound fantastic, is that what you really want?  In my mind,” new” means replacing something “old”.Nothing of the original is salvaged.  I mean, do you want to make a brand new you?  Do you really dislike your entire being and want to make an entirely new you?  I’m sure you do not want to get rd of everything you are.  Do you really want to change everything about your person?  I sure don’t.

Instead, look to make this year “New Year, Better Me.”  Take some time.  Reflect on your present circumstances.  Where are your strengths?  Where are you satisfied with your life?  Also, where do you miss the mark?  Where would you like to improve?  Then, you can focus your time and energy on building better skills, beliefs, and situations to improve your life overall. As Always, Eat, Move, and Improve!

Happy Holidays!



Good evening everyone!  I wold like to thank you all for your support and comments this year.  2017 has been a big year for me as I started taking this more seriously.  I would like to personally like to thank each and every one of you readers.  I do it for you!  I want to wish you all a very Happy Holiday season.  I will be taking a break to brainstorm more ideas and enjoy time with my friends and family.  See you in 2018!  As Always, Eat, Move, and Improve!